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Lady Christie   in reply to Resourceful-Soul   on

Hopeful-Soul

its me again I was checking out some of your links and one thing I have found I am good at is checking website I visit to see if they have an affiliate program. Well some of them you listed do have an affiliate program, you should sign up for them and get paid for someone visiting their site or buying from it instead of doing it for free. Here are the ones I have found that you could sign up for
Work from Home Job Search
Motivational & Inspirational Corner (Programs for purchase)
Top 16 Self-Improvement Newsletters (FREE)

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What moves YOU?

Alyssa Lies Jason Michael Carroll My little girl met a new friend Just the other day On the playground at school Between the tires and the swings But she came home with tear-filled eyes And she said to me "Daddy, Alyssa Lies" I just brushed it off at first Cause I didn't know how much my little girl had been hurt Or the things she had seen I wasn't ready when I said you can tell me And she said Chorus Alyssa Lies To the classroom Alyssa lies Everyday at school Alyssa lies To the teacher As she tries to cover every bruise My little girl laid her head down That night to go to sleep As I stepped out the room I heard her say A prayer so soft and sweet God bless my mom and my dad And my new friend Alyssa I know she needs it bad Chorus I had the worst night of sleep in years As I tried to think of a way to calm her fears I knew just what it was I had to do But when we got to school on Monday I heard the news My little girl asked me why everybody looked so sad The lump in my throat grew bigger With every question that she asked Until I felt the tears run down my face And I told her that Alyssa wouldn't be at school today She doesn't lie In the classroom She doesn't lie Anymore at school Alyssa lies With Jesus Because there's nothing anyone would do Tears filled my eyes When my little girl asked me why Alyssa lies Daddy tell me why Alyssa lies

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Here's a link to Soulights page
Soulights Page

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What moves YOU?

The Christmas Shoes Newsong It was almost Christmas time And there I stood in another line Trying to buy that last gift or two Not really in the Christmas mood And standin right in front of me was a Little boy waiting anxiously Pacin around like little boys do And in his hands he held A pair of shoes and His clothes were worn and old He was dirty from head to toe And when it came his time to pay I couldn't beleive what I heard him say CHORUS: Sir I wanna buy these shoes For my mama. please It's Christmas eve and these shoes are just her size Could you hurry sir Daddy says there's not much time You see, She's been sick for quite a while And I know these shoes will make her smile And I Want her to look beautiful If mama meets Jesus tonight They counted penny's for what seemed like years then the Cashier said, "Son, there's not enough here." He searched his pockets frantically Then he turned and he looked at me and he said "Mama made Christmas good at our house though Most years she just did without, Tell me sir, What am I gonna do? Some how I gotta buy her these Christmas shoes." So I laid the money down I just had to help him out And I'll never forget the look on his face when he said, "Mama's gonna look so great." Sir I wanna buy these shoes For my mama. please It's Christmas eve and these shoes are just her size Could you hurry sir Daddy says there's not much time You see, She's been sick for quite a while And I know these shoes will make her smile And I Want her to look beautiful If mama meets Jesus tonight I knew I'd caught a glimpse of heaven's love as he thanked me and ran out I knew that God had sent me that little boy to remind me what Christmas is all about Sir I wanna buy these shoes For my mama. please It's Christmas eve and these shoes are just her size Could you hurry sir Daddy says there's not much time You see, She's been sick for quite a while And I know these shoes will make her smile And I Want her to look beautiful If mama meets Jesus tonight I Want her to look beautiful If mama meets Jesus tonight

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What moves YOU?

One Safe Place Marc Cohn How many roads you’ve traveled How many dreams you’ve chased Across sand and sky and gravel Looking for one safe place Will you make a smoother landing When you break your fall from grace Into the arms of understanding Looking for one safe place Life is trial by fire And love’s the sweetest taste And I pray it lifts us higher To one safe place How many roads we’ve traveled How many dreams we’ve chased Across sand and sky and gravel Looking for one safe place

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Lady Christie   in reply to Temporary help   on

Comment: I am not a poor person but...

Maybe you have fallen on hard times who am I to judge but I just can't help but feel no pity. If you are living in a $680,000 house then maybe you should downsize. Then you're financial troubles should be solved.

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How to Create More Money in Your Household

Thank you for the great ideas!!

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Lady Christies Daily Money Saving Challenges

Thank you Anonymous40784 The idea to saving when you don't have the money to save is to start small, I started at a penny. As humerous as that may seem my penny has grown to $100, I never stressed about putting money in my jar, I did it when I could. I am hoping by the time my challenges are done people will be able to put more into that jar then a nickel. I hope people will try and do these things you will see a difference in your lives and in your wallet. Last year my highest gas bill was $200 and that was only because we were all sick and had the chills and I have lowered my electric bill by ten dollars a month I am working on getting that even lower it just takes time. Christie

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Lady Christies Daily Money Saving Challenges

I am big on telling people to save money, live more frugally and so forth and so on. Then I realized I am giving everyone a lot to swallow, it took me forever it seems like to remember to do things to save my money. How can I expect others to learn it all at once. So I am making daily challenges, not only will it be good on your wallet but some things are naturally good for the environment. We will start off simple, it's easier to take baby steps then to jump in head first.

I will put daily challenges the night before

Thursday July 12

Today we need to keep doing our previous challenges

  1. No lights on during the day
  2. Stop watching Tv for extended periods
  3. Keep electronics and or appliances unplugged

Now for the new challenges

  • Eat a meatless dish tonight.
  • Cut your fabric softener sheets in half

*Bonus* If you pay for your water or even if you don't try taking your shower in ten minutes or less.

Wednesday July 11

This will be day two for our challenges I hope everyone tried at least one thing yesterday, today not only are we going to add new challenges I also want you to continue to keep your lights off during the day. This will save you electricity and it will keep your house cooler.

  • Do you watch tv during the day for extended periods of time? Well stop, read a book you borrowed from the library, go for a walk just do something else besides watch tv. It will save electricity.
  • Go through the house and unplug appliances and/or electronics you don't use everyday or even ones that you do use often but could live without their instant on features (or clocks in my case). The electronics and appliances that have the instant on features and little lights on them leech your electricity. Though it isn't a lot, but your money is still being wasted.

*Bonus*  Of course some of you may have already paid your bills if you have keep this in mind for when you have to pay them again and if you are about to don't forget to do this. I want you to pay at least an extra 10 cents on each of your bills. Don't give me an odd look, yes I said at least an extra 10 cents. Don't say that's not much because it is.  I want you to do it every month and act like you don't do it at all after a while you will have a little cushion to fall on if you ever need it. 

Tuesday July 10

  • Get a clean container and put one nickel in it, this will be the beginning of your savings and your start to a brighter future
  • Do not turn your lights on during the day

*Bonus* Buy one compact fluorescent light bulb this will save you money on your electricity and it won't heat up the room while on like normal light bulbs do.

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How to Create More Money in Your Household

We all need it to live so quit spending more then what you have, don't spend more then you need to and save every penny you can.

Get a second job

Cut back on spending

Use coupons

Quit using name brands

Combine errands into one trip

Create cash by selling your used books, videos and CDs online

Have a garage sale

Get Freebies and coupons from companies

Quit paying so much for internet go to Freedom List to find internet for free or cheaper then you are paying now

Have your checks directly deposited this will cut back on impulse spending

Try eating a few veggie meals a week

Whenever you get money unexpectedly never spend it. Save it.

Avoid paying atm fees, go to your bank to withdraw money or get cashback at the store

Pay bills online that don’t charge the convenience fee all others still mail out.

When you find loose change on the ground put it in a savings jar

Ok this has got to be the weirdest one I have heard I was talking to a friend and she told me about this, I guess she had read it somewhere. Selling pigeon droppings for fertilizer, it makes sense they are high in nitrogen. How to collect it I wouldn't have a clue, but if you can figure it out more power to you.

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Lady Christie   in reply to mommom   on

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If you are having financial difficulties and are about to loose your house I think the last thing you should be worrying about is a wedding. If it's love the wedding can wait, or you can just go somewhere to say your vows. Christie

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For those of us who are just poor

Thank you Soulight

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Christmas Tragedy

I have read many pages asking for help for Christmas, I have read a story by Who~Knew, about a Christmas gift that wasn't wrapped in a box but of just a few simple words spoken by a stranger. There are pages by Shezablonde that offers inspirational words and pages by Soulight and myself who offer alternative ideas to the normal gift buying season.

A lot of people recently have come here for hope and assistance for this time of year especially parents who just can't seem to make ends meet or who are just making ends meet with no breathing room. We feel depressed because we feel that we aren't providing for our children or that they are missing out on something. We often say I want my kids to have better then what I had as a child, or I'm just trying to give my child the best life he deserves. Let me ask you a question, what is the definition of the best life possible for a child? Normally when I hear these statements it is often geared toward the materialistic side of life, I read once that if we keep on buying our children's love we are going to end up with a worldful of materialistic spoiled brats, I truly believe in this statement. I know we want the best for our children but the sooner we all realize this does not include money the better off the world will be. Even though I believe in one thing doesn't mean I don't question my beliefs so what does a parent do when they are confused about parenting, we take it to the experts our children. I told them to imagine two families one that is rich and one that is poor and I asked them who's family is better they told me they were equal because they have eachother. I then asked them who's kids were happier and they said the poor family because if they are rich that probably means the parents work to much and don't spend enough time with their kids. Just recently I questioned them about Christmas I asked them what does Christmas mean to them they said decorating the Christmas tree, family, food and Jesus. Not once was there mention of Christmas gifts. And actually last night while we were decorating the tree for Christmas they asked if next year for Christmas if they could have a real Christmas tree decorated in food for the animals and put presents under the tree for the animals with food in it so they could watch them come and eat. Once again not once was it mentioned of me buying them anything.

Christmas time is supposed to be a time of joy and celebration. But most people feel the only way to celebrate Christmas is to have those TV Christmas's where there are tons of presents under the tree and tables overflowing with food. Because some people can't achieve the TV perfect Christmas we feel less of a person or parent. People find themselves depressed and not worthy and often times this turns into tragedy. I want people to know Christmas is more then gifts, If you are religious it's about Jesus and if you aren't it should be about your family. I know all to well how Christmas can destroy a family if you let it, and that's what I am about to share with everyone.

Yesterday was the fourteenth anniversay of when my papa disappeared, he left for work that morning but never went to work. He never let on that anything was wrong he was the manly man type and never showed emotion. He was a busdriver for my school district and all of my classmates knew him and like me they knew he never took off work. When he wasn't on the bus that day they asked me where he was I found it odd but said I didn't know and went on about my day. That day when I came home from school my mom and stepdad were waiting for me and said we have to go to mamas your papa is missing and no one knows where he is. He was a funny type of guy he would drive an hour because pop would be on sale at this one store so he would have to go and buy it to save money. So I just said there was probably pop on sale in Texas and he went to buy some. He never came home that night and I still wanted to believe he found a good sale on something that he had to have I never tried to worry about him. The next day I was in school and over the announcements they said that my papa was missing and to pray that he returns safely home to his family. Once again after school we went back to my grandmas and waited they had contacted the TV stations. Still my papa never came home and I went back to school the next day, and I knew something was wrong. My papa was found that day, he had killed himself, a hunter had found him a couple towns over. My grandfather was depressed because of Christmas, he didn't want to face us Christmas eve when we were opening up our presents. He felt he would be letting everyone down because he wasn't able to provide us with the extravagant Christmas he felt he had to.
If only he knew or remembered that it wasn't the presents that we wanted it was him. The little things he did made our Christmas. That year on Christmas eve we were at my mamas house we cried most of the time. Then it was time to open up presents my mama said "before papa left us he bought everyone presents and wrapped them I didn't put his name on them to try and trick you" after looking at the present I could tell right away it was his handwriting and he could never spell my name right and of course this year like every other year it was spelled a new way. My papa always bought everyone one sweater and some stinky perfume or cologne or bath gel he'd tell us we stink and needed to wash our behinds better or to wear the perfume to cover our smell. We would always tell him that Christmas wouldn't be Christmas without our ugly sweaters or stinky stuff. My cousin and I still have those last two presents he had given us and Christmas has never been the same without them. If only my papa knew all we wanted for Christmas was him that presents under the tree wasn't important he might still be here with us.

I am an adult now and while I still miss my papa every year and still wish he was here I realize that he had given me the best Christmas present possible. From him I can remember that Christmas is not about presents. I am not less of a parent because I can't put a ps3, cell phone or mp3 player under the tree for my children. I am not less of a parent if the only gift I can provide my children is an ugly sweater and a bottle of stinky perfume. And I am not less of a parent if I can only  provide them with a Christmas breakfast and a marathon Christmas movie day.

We are the ones who set the example for our children and if we only think about presents on Christmas that is what our kids will think about but if we teach our children that Christmas is not about presents then that is what our kids will believe. This Christmas instead of worrying about Christmas presents wrapped in boxes give your children a Christmas present of a new family tradition. Something that they will be able to take with them as adults, something they can look back on and say we didn't have everything that money could buy because money could never buy my families love. Lets all make a change this year for the better, if we all change we can change the world.

Christie

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Rape Prevention

Just recently a rapist moved near my home, so I thought it would be a good idea for me to learn how to keep my children and myself safe and to share this information with others as well.

Find out if there is a sex offender living in your area

National Sex Offender Public Registry

No rape prevention strategy is foolproof. But you can avoid making yourself an easy victim by taking the following precautions.

Protect yourself against rape

"Every woman is a potential rape victim. Rapists tend to look for women who are more likely to be easy victims. But there are things women can do to protect themselves and reduce the risk." — Andrea Parrot, rape expert

The Oprah Winfrey Show How to Protect yourself

Every woman, no matter where you live or who you are, is at risk. Thousands of rapists remain free and continue to attack because their victims don't report the rapes. Just as author Andrea Parrot says, "Victims don't ever deserve the crimes committed against them." Victims are also instrumental in preventing numbers like these from growing.

Rape Facts

Rape and sexual assault are widespread problems. The use of psychoactive drugs makes a dangerous situation even more dangerous.

Protecting yourself from date rape

There are many misconceptions about sexual offenses, sexual offense victims, and sex offenders in our society. Much has been learned about these behaviors and populations in the past decade and this information is being used to develop more effective criminal justice interventions throughout the country. This document serves to inform citizens, policy makers, and practitioners about sex offenders and their victims, addressing the facts that underlie common assumptions both true and false in this rapidly evolving field.

Myths and facts about sex offenders

Rape is a violent crime, an invasion, a frightening experience. Rape affects all women, no matter what their age, race or economic status. All women are potential victims of sexual assault.

More Rape Prevention

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What to do if you have been Raped

Find a counseling Center in your area

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I have hung the picture of the rapist who moved in on my refrigerator, though my kids know to stay away from strangers I have made it clear they stay further away from this man. They aren't even allowed to go down his street.

 

 

 

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Lady Christie   in reply to Lady Christie   on

A helping Hand

I agree everyone needs to be extra careful not only in our everyday life but most importantly on the internet. People are out there to scam others, I would never intentionally point someone in the direction of a scam, and I would never try to mislead people. I know it is hard being poor I wish I had the money to help everyone, I also wish I knew where everyone could go to get help. I don't though, I can only tell people of my personal struggles and that there is hope you just have to be strong, and keep trying. I know life can throw some ugly punches and it only seems to get worse the further down you get, but sometimes you have to hit the floor before you can get back up again. I guess you can say sometimes we need to reboot our life. It is never an easy fight but it is a worthwhile fight. When you begin to start winning the fight and taking back your life it is the greatest feeling in the world. I want to help people feel that pride, it is the only way I can help others right now. If I only help one person it will be well worth my time. I hope you don't give up, where there is a will there is a way. I know it seems hopeless, but it's often when things seem hopeless that we find our own inner strength to not give up. Don't give up and God Bless, Lady Christie

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For those of us who are just poor

Just after 9/11 I realized life wasn’t going to be so good, my husbands job was in jeopardy and we had accumulated around $20,000 in debt. My husband’s employer made window gaskets for high-rise buildings; it was their specialty and the main product that they produced. They began working two or three days a week, it was barely enough to put food on our table and a roof over our head let alone pay utilities and credit card bills. We weren’t sure what to do, should he find a new job or should he stick by the company who has been so supportive of us. We decided to wait it out, see what happens. In the meantime I fought off the greedy creditors, telling them I will pay my debt I have always held my accounts in good standing only to end the conversations with me crying and begging them for understanding.

 I cried myself to sleep at night’s wondering why us, just when I thought our lives were going good how could we end up poorer then poor again. I thought how am I going to pay our bills, how will I keep our utilities on. I didn’t know where to turn for help, I didn’t know help existed. All I wanted was money to get by.  I began to be jealous of anybody whoever had something that I didn’t. I hated people, I hated life.

 Eventually my husband’s job picked up he had more overtime then he could handle. It was barely enough to pay up on our utilities; we still couldn’t catch up on our credit cards. It seemed after all of this bad luck hit us one month after another. A hospital bill from when my husband was 19 caught up to us, $5000, past taxes he never paid $200, a debt to a bank $500 and a truck that he didn’t own anymore $700. Then I had gotten sick and hospitalized $2000 and my husband was stung in the throat by a bee and hospitalized $2000. Going through all of this I still had to fend off the credit card companies.

 Life wasn’t worth it anymore; I had life insurance I was worth more dead then alive. I tried committing suicide before but this time I wouldn’t try, I wanted my family to live a good life with or without me. I had even talked to my husband about being cremated and how I wanted my death to be handled if I ever died. I could never follow through I wanted to be with my kids I didn’t want to be away from them.

 I cried every night I didn’t know what to do. We couldn’t afford bankruptcy if I had $700 to pay a lawyer then I wouldn’t need to file bankruptcy I could pay my bills. I was stuck at a dead end I couldn’t move forward and couldn’t move backward. That’s when I decided I had to change our lives; no one would change it for me.

 I sat and looked at all of our bills one day, I wrote everything down how much came in and how much went out, only to find myself more depressed then when I started. I knew we had to change we had to start paying out less then we brought in. That’s when we started “Poorly Living”. I did everything I could to save money, right down to taking light bulbs out. I then decided any extra money had to go to our debts. I started babysitting, doing paid to read emails and paid surveys. It wasn’t much, it was pennies but every extra penny went towards our debts. I was no longer going to feel sorry for myself I was going to help myself.

 I am proud to say I did help myself, it has been six years and $20,000 worth of debt has been paid down to around $5,000. I have 2 years left to pay on our trailer and our last credit card, by that time I should be free and clear of all debts. I did it by myself, no one helped me. It didn’t happen over night if I learned anything from my experiences it’s that all things are possible if you want them bad enough, and you will never learn anything if you don’t help yourself.

God Bless all of you,

Lady Christie

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Soulight Thank you I have been busy, just like you. I have been inspired for a new story too now I just need the time to write it. I am glad though that you liked them. I am hoping to get time to put them up on my site. God Bless Lady Christie

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DeadInside I have not found any information proving any of the work at home sites is a scam. If I find proof that they are a scam they will be removed but before I listed them I did do a quick check (not thorough). It is your choice to join, it is your choice to even look at them. My website was not meant to be a source for work at home opportunities it was more for learning how to live with what money you have, work at home, paid surveys and webmasters was only added if people wanted the opportunities. Lady Christie

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Thank you Anonymous40784 It's only the beginning of my site but I have been down that road and am still going down that road, it's just easier now. I am hoping if anything I can help people save there money. Lady Christie

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I have anxiety, depression, social anxiety and have even tried to commit suicide, I know it is not always easy. I never tried to make it sound easy. I grew up poor was a victim of an abusive mother, and was molested by my stepdad I had my first child at fifteen and my third by eighteen. It is not an easy road. I have fought like hell to make it in the world, all I am trying to say is it is possible to make it. I had around $20,000 in debts I am now down to around $5,000 I have fought and ripped my hair out to make it and I am winning. I have had no financial help, we never qualified for assistance so we have done this by ourselves. I want everyone to understand that they can too. It is a hard road to go down but if you want it to happen bad enough it will you just have to keep at it.

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